Your Marriage is a Project

Hello, my married couples back with another article for the married people. How do you deal with uplifting your marriage? Let’s dig in with a couple of things I been working on this summer when it comes to strengthening marriage.

Your marriage is a project

I’m in my thirties now, and I’m so laid back my husband must ask me am I alright a thousand times a day. Due to the change of wanting more in life, my focus is different. Now the status of our marriage is surrounded by things like how to become more intimate with each other, time spent outside of the home, and how to build a better future. Marriage is like a project, and if you give up when you get to the tuff part, I want you to stop and ask yourself what is it that you need to assess in the relationship.

Working on your marriage is very important. Yes, you may yell and scream but after all that is said and done “regroup” and pray. Prayers for your marriage work wonders trust me if it didn’t I wouldn’t be writing this post and you wouldn’t be reading it.

A couple of things married people should focus more on is

1). Knowing your worth and what you both value in life.

2). listening to what each other have to say not just one person side but allowing each other to express themselves without interruption.

(FYI) Communication speaks a lot about your perception of marriage.

We all know everything is not going to be peachy but learning from all those bumpy roads have designed me to become the wife that I am today. Remember to not get so lost that you lose focus on what is essential.

After evaluating our circumstances, we both begin to embrace smiles that lit up across our face and even enjoy the little things that brought back the joy of why we got married in the first place.

However, we cannot take all the credit becoming more spiritual has allowed not only me but my husband to remove a lot of things in both of our lives to create and develop a true an unbreakable marriage.

Now that I look back on how both of us agreed to work together by putting our words into action in a more positive way has made our marriage stronger, and we give all praise to the highest “GOD.”

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Acknowledge your position & work out your differences

There are one million things we can do but being a husband is not one of them no your position it’s ok to be a little submissive. I remember my aunt told me one day act like a lady years ago not in a disrespectful way but to be more laid back and try not to be so passive.

We, women, tend to get overwhelmed because we are doing a million things that we don’t have to do. We are merely doing them because of either

1. we want it done a certain way or

2. we are just too impatient to wait.

I have realized that perfection will leave you a mess and stressed. work together on your difference and implement a plan that is suitable for the both of you. prayer has brought my marriage along the way.

I recommend meditation set aside a time and just relax.

“What Happen When Husbands & Wives Pray Together” by Carey Moore & Pamela Rosewell Moore give you insight on how to deal with things like this.

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For example, say your spouse didn’t bring back the right type of coffee, late getting home, or forgot to put gas in the car, etc.

When my husband comes home with the wrong order, and I am being as honest as I can be. I usually scream like you can’t get a straightforward task right 🤔.

Now since we mellowed out our differences. My response will be more appropriate. And without the disrespect, he just goes back and corrects it because he is trying to make me happy and who wants to argue over something so petty as a coffee order🤔.

When things may seem rocky in your relationship the devil will take the smallest things like a mistake on a coffee order and make it an argument.

If you’re praying and acknowledging how to assess situations before and after. when the time comes you will know how to handle a situation like these.

Learning to channel my emotions, separate myself from the problem, and listen without becoming so frustrated has allowed me to hear and think of ways to fix the issue. Such as

  1. Call your spouse and have them repeat the order back to you.
  2. Write the order down so your spouse can remember.
  3. Have a conversation about the things that irritate you so when you do get in a situation you won’t use stuff like this to argue on.
  4. Help each other out so that the other spouse is not so overwhelmed.

Being able to communicate and understand the difference between each other than assuming who knows best is more efficient in a marriage.

Mistakes are going to be made but just try not to put too much emphasis on it and move on, to be honest, it’s better this way and healthier.

Wasting time arguing never fix anything in return gives both of you a headache 😣 and the issue still is not resolved.

Try focusing on the thing that brings you joy. Like sending positive love texts, playing some mellow music and just enjoy each others company.

I remember this poem my husband sent me from “cutelovequotesforher.org” my husband sends them all the time, but this one stuck in my head because I’m a sucker for poetry and lovey text.

Those texts that bring joy through the day😘😊

“You Mean the World to Me”

In all our time together, you’ve come to mean so much to me. You are my best friend my life and all my dreams. You give me hope when I’m all out. You are my pick-me-up when I’m feeling down. You make me feel good about myself. There will never be anyone else for the rest of the time to love me as you do and for me to like you too. The way I love you, you mean the world to me. You are my soul, my spirit, and my everything.

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God made wives abide and help when difficulties arise. I call it “The Strength For His Armor” because God made a marriage consist of two. When one is weak, the other is strong.

As weeks pass by I begin to notice the change in my husband and myself, I started something with my husband called let’s get active. Anyone can try this really but mainly I believe it’s better for couples that have been married more than five to seven years. Because after the first five years things seem to start getting old and we need to reevaluate our circumstance to spend more time together as a couple especially with family, work, and children its always essential to make time for your spouse.

If you would like to try some let’s get active here are a couple of things to give you an idea. Please follow the link below for more information.

6 things to strengthen your Marriage

Until next time and remember God loves you and so do I.

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6 things to strengthen your Marriage

6 things we use this pass summer to get our marriage back on track hope some of these can help you redefine your marriage.

  1. Exercise together, motivate each other on strengths and weakness coach each other this creates teamwork and you also increase communication with one another.
  2. Pick date night each of you picks something that is adventurous get out your comfort zone. We all no doing things when you were younger was exciting rekindle that same love. Create memories positive ones and leave the past just as it states.
  3. Try cooking a quick meal for each other teach each other something that the other doesn’t know how to cook. put away all devices and talk to each other for a couple of hours.
  4. Drive to their job or whatever location they’re at and bring gifts or lunch or write a simple thank you note for merely being blessed to have your spouse in your life.
  5. My favorite take a drive out of town just to have lunch or go shopping.
  6. Make time and do the most extraordinary adventure together helps rekindle the love.

Stop setting rules all the time come home and put on casual clothes and just take a drive the both of you. making time and actually doing the work it takes to keep a marriage going is worth it if you love each other.

until next time be blessed.🤗🙌💏

The Power of a Praying Wife

Hello everyone, I must say this is my first time doing a book review for my blog however, I had a vision for this to be posted on my blog seeing that I am a wife, mother and Christian Disciple as we all know I’m very passionate about marriage and family now that we got that out the way let’s talk about “The Power of a Praying Wife” by STORMIE OMARTIAN

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I purchase her book on a Friday and finish reading it on that Sunday a three-day read could have finished before then, but the Lord said to me don’t rush take your time sweet child and digest the Holy Spirit that you are bought to receive through this book.

The book is a Christian novel about a wife who prays for her husband and life obstacles through every situation as their marriage transition in life. STORMIE uses prayer as the weapon of full armor to defeat the enemy in the battle of destruction through marriage which I think is powerful. We all know in a marriage GOD never said, “life would be easy”.

However, one part that was very intriguing to me as the author Stormie “said” And I quote “Worrying about your marriage changes nothing… Praying about it can change everything”.

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I love the inspiration in this book that the Holy Spirit leads you and guides you through every aspect in a marriage to pray for your husband no matter what. Giving you strong faith, motivation, and inspiration all at the same time my God. Reading this novel I received great power through this book it was amazing.
According to Stormie every woman who desires a closer relationship with her husband will appreciate this inspirational prayer book. You will see that praying leads you closer to God and understanding the power of sacrifice in a marriage. I know I did she has become my number one author for now with this kind of content. The book also has to help me cope through my marriage and understand how to pray more and let Go and let God do the rest it has magnified my soul tremendously.

Another thing I enjoyed in the novel was and I’m speaking from experience we as women tend to want to control instead of learning how to let go and let God lead us not just in a marriage in any giving situation. For example, instead of trying to change someone as if they are a child and you’re teaching them your way of being obedient pray and let God teach them to be obedient to his way.

I promise you in return you will feel so relieved from all the stress you been caring on then later realize that God didn’t even ask you to do all that in the first place. I also learned to let God lead me as I pray for my husband and in return, I begin to be elevated myself.

Now, this chapter 12 oh my God go ahead and grab your hot tea and have a seat because this is about to be the TEATIME while we sip.

Chapter 12 His Protection

This was by far my favorite out of this book although all the content lugged in my brain like it was generative learning that actively integrated my memory and enhanced the Holy spirit within my body. The spirits, concept, and knowledge I endured how to pray for my husband were incredible.

After reading I realized what my husband face every day can be a battle for him something we women tend not to understand sometimes. Some of our husbands go through so much on a daily just by making what we may think is are simple.

Remember God said that even though “the wicked watches the righteous, and seeks to slay him, the Lord will not leave him in his hand” (Psalm 37:32,33). Power of a praying wife is the strength of a husbands life.

I don’t want to give too much information. So go purchase or read the book if you haven’t and come back and let me know your thoughts. I would love the fees back and if you have any recommendations drop a comment so I can be sure to read some of your material on a praying wife.

Other books by STORMIE OMARTIAN

The Power of Praying Parent

STORMIE

Greater Health God’s Way

Till next time Have a Bless Day

Married Couples Monday

Married Couples Monday

Couples Date Night

Hello everyone, It’s Married Couples Monday and I wanted to reach out to the married people today. Do you attend date nights with your spouse even if you do not like the scenery yah or nay? Or you just do not go?

I use this topic in a Facebook group I’m in these are real people comments but I will not disclose their name due to privacy and group rules. However, this is a question based off my own personal aspects and testimonies.

I have always found it a bit uncomfortable when my spouse wants me to attend or go to something that I do not require interest in. Am I being selfish? Is it right that he goes to everything I like to do but when it’s his turn I’m a bit of a downer hmm. Let’s look at some of the comments and advice received from married couples and their perspective pertaining to this topic.

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Mary – said the right thing to do would be to attend. she thought that some spouses are sensitive, so she suggested that communicating with your spouse ahead of time so that you both would have a dialogue on what the other spouse like and dislike.

Sarah insisted yes, she would go if it’s something the spouse really enjoys explaining that marriage is made up of two people and it’s not always about what one person like.

Lexis said yes because she believes in compromising even though each spouse like different things you must sacrifice for each other.

Jill said no she will not attend somewhere she doesn’t like and that her spouse is ok with it.

All of these are intriguing to me but the thing in a marriage is that you never know what the other spouse like or really dislike. if there is any lack in communication and know sacrifice is being placed how could it work. plan ahead of time no last-minute date night building a marriage together requires teamwork. know that you are still growing with each other by the day and acknowledge to learn from each other not just one spouses way. I agree that if it’s positive and a safe environment why not attend. sometimes you must break the chain of selfishness and compromise with the other to indulge and make each other happy even if it’s a bit corky. marriage is all about making each other happy like the very first time neither spouse should be left behind.

 

What are some of the things you have told your spouse 👎 to and then thought about it after he or she left?

Did you think am being selfish?  remember some spouse won’t speak just to make you happy but is that right? Not at all.

P.s. Teamwork Makes the Marriage Work. 💑💋😘👌

Have a Bless Day Luv Bugs💋

GOD’s WORK A MAN OF STEEL

 

GOD can use anyone no matter how insignificant he or she appears. Mathews 10:2-4 remember the twelve apostles: Simon known as peter, Andrew; James, John; Philip and Bartholomew; Thomas and Matthew; James; Thaddeus; Simon; Judas Iscariot. they all received a gift and was sent out to complete a mission to fore feel a purpose.

I have learned that GOD will place someone in your life only for you. He may not have all the tools to give you everything you want and desire, but he will provide your needs. My father blesses me with someone who is handy with his hands and firm on his feet with amazing love nothing but “GOD”. My husband is a man equipped of steel who found a way of working hard to provide for his family. I look back at each of the apostles on what they had to do to sacrifice being sent out like sheep among the wolves (Matthew 10:16).

Realizing working hard can cause such destruction without a clear mind which can become a pro or a con in one’s marriage leading to all kinds of destruction.

 

This prayer “#40 prayers for my husband: His work” by Kaylene Yoder has been my motivation and has touch me spiritually. I have Prayed those prayer for my husband as he is being sent to fight with the wolves on a daily. Father I pray you cover my husband at work and surround him with all your glory and holy spirit protect him from anything that is not of you father GOD. I ask that you bind any demonic spirit that will try to steer him wrong. May the employees upon his present be with a positive reflection of you my lord. Strengthen him while he endures all things in Jesus name I pray Amen.

Sometimes we must stop being selfish and realize what we have is something special that GOD placed upon us to have and build on. Learning how to pray for your husband has changed me completely. Take the time out and pray for your love ones it doesn’t have to be your spouse it could be for anyone.

Reconciled and Renewed fix it Jesus.

Have Bless Day Luv Bugs.

 

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Reconciled & Renewed

On this blog you will see prayers and positive speaking I will be sharing as a gift of testimony reconcile and renewed marriage. Life has not always been easy, but I realize now the work, love, and patients you must endure. Sometimes you need a wakeup call to remind you to step

 

 

 

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away from the outside world and acknowledge your problems and fix them together as a couple. Rebuilding your relationship through positive actions and learning to remove negative out of your life. Martial solution may seem hard to complete together but with 10 years of experience I can relate to the struggle. I tell you now it won’t be easy but if you put the effort and trust in to it with GOD’s mercy and glory you shall conquer most of the obstacles together.

#6 Things to start working on in your marriage

  • Communication
  • Conflict Resolution
  • Financial Management
  • Sexuality & Affection
  • Spiritual Beliefs

Take these tools and begin to discuss some of the things with your spouse as you both reconcile your strengths and weakness and growth areas together.

The Power of A Praying Wife: I am his strength

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. It’s hard to forgive someone who is the love of your life. “Prayer is the greatest and powerful weapon in the struggle to maintain your marriage.” James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. If it’s worth holding on to I think you should try to save your marriage and reconcile.

Do you agree to reconcile and renew your vows? marriage is not easy I have been married for ten years and I refuse to let the devil have this marriage. I will fight everyday until our last days to death to us apart. Think about a time in your marriage that you thought you could never get over. What was some of the skills you use to cope with? Where they difficult or easy to task? Did your spouse care to listen and try to work the issues out?  share and comment your testimony could be someone else way to cope through a tough situation. we all need to understand that we have choices.

Reconcile with your spouse
Ephesians 4:31-32