Hello, my married couples back with another article for the married people. How do you deal with uplifting your marriage? Let’s dig in with a couple of things I been working on this summer when it comes to strengthening marriage.
Your marriage is a project
I’m in my thirties now, and I’m so laid back my husband must ask me am I alright a thousand times a day. Due to the change of wanting more in life, my focus is different. Now the status of our marriage is surrounded by things like how to become more intimate with each other, time spent outside of the home, and how to build a better future. Marriage is like a project, and if you give up when you get to the tuff part, I want you to stop and ask yourself what is it that you need to assess in the relationship.
Working on your marriage is very important. Yes, you may yell and scream but after all that is said and done “regroup” and pray. Prayers for your marriage work wonders trust me if it didn’t I wouldn’t be writing this post and you wouldn’t be reading it.
A couple of things married people should focus more on is
1). Knowing your worth and what you both value in life.
2). listening to what each other have to say not just one person side but allowing each other to express themselves without interruption.
(FYI) Communication speaks a lot about your perception of marriage.
We all know everything is not going to be peachy but learning from all those bumpy roads have designed me to become the wife that I am today. Remember to not get so lost that you lose focus on what is essential.
After evaluating our circumstances, we both begin to embrace smiles that lit up across our face and even enjoy the little things that brought back the joy of why we got married in the first place.
However, we cannot take all the credit becoming more spiritual has allowed not only me but my husband to remove a lot of things in both of our lives to create and develop a true an unbreakable marriage.
Now that I look back on how both of us agreed to work together by putting our words into action in a more positive way has made our marriage stronger, and we give all praise to the highest “GOD.”
Acknowledge your position & work out your differences
There are one million things we can do but being a husband is not one of them no your position it’s ok to be a little submissive. I remember my aunt told me one day act like a lady years ago not in a disrespectful way but to be more laid back and try not to be so passive.
We, women, tend to get overwhelmed because we are doing a million things that we don’t have to do. We are merely doing them because of either
1. we want it done a certain way or
2. we are just too impatient to wait.
I have realized that perfection will leave you a mess and stressed. work together on your difference and implement a plan that is suitable for the both of you. prayer has brought my marriage along the way.
I recommend meditation set aside a time and just relax.
“What Happen When Husbands & Wives Pray Together” by Carey Moore & Pamela Rosewell Moore give you insight on how to deal with things like this.
For example, say your spouse didn’t bring back the right type of coffee, late getting home, or forgot to put gas in the car, etc.
When my husband comes home with the wrong order, and I am being as honest as I can be. I usually scream like you can’t get a straightforward task right 🤔.
Now since we mellowed out our differences. My response will be more appropriate. And without the disrespect, he just goes back and corrects it because he is trying to make me happy and who wants to argue over something so petty as a coffee order🤔.
When things may seem rocky in your relationship the devil will take the smallest things like a mistake on a coffee order and make it an argument.
If you’re praying and acknowledging how to assess situations before and after. when the time comes you will know how to handle a situation like these.
Learning to channel my emotions, separate myself from the problem, and listen without becoming so frustrated has allowed me to hear and think of ways to fix the issue. Such as
- Call your spouse and have them repeat the order back to you.
- Write the order down so your spouse can remember.
- Have a conversation about the things that irritate you so when you do get in a situation you won’t use stuff like this to argue on.
- Help each other out so that the other spouse is not so overwhelmed.
Being able to communicate and understand the difference between each other than assuming who knows best is more efficient in a marriage.
Mistakes are going to be made but just try not to put too much emphasis on it and move on, to be honest, it’s better this way and healthier.
Wasting time arguing never fix anything in return gives both of you a headache 😣 and the issue still is not resolved.
Try focusing on the thing that brings you joy. Like sending positive love texts, playing some mellow music and just enjoy each others company.
I remember this poem my husband sent me from “cutelovequotesforher.org” my husband sends them all the time, but this one stuck in my head because I’m a sucker for poetry and lovey text.
Those texts that bring joy through the day😘😊
“You Mean the World to Me”
In all our time together, you’ve come to mean so much to me. You are my best friend my life and all my dreams. You give me hope when I’m all out. You are my pick-me-up when I’m feeling down. You make me feel good about myself. There will never be anyone else for the rest of the time to love me as you do and for me to like you too. The way I love you, you mean the world to me. You are my soul, my spirit, and my everything.
God made wives abide and help when difficulties arise. I call it “The Strength For His Armor” because God made a marriage consist of two. When one is weak, the other is strong.
As weeks pass by I begin to notice the change in my husband and myself, I started something with my husband called let’s get active. Anyone can try this really but mainly I believe it’s better for couples that have been married more than five to seven years. Because after the first five years things seem to start getting old and we need to reevaluate our circumstance to spend more time together as a couple especially with family, work, and children its always essential to make time for your spouse.
If you would like to try some let’s get active here are a couple of things to give you an idea. Please follow the link below for more information.
Until next time and remember God loves you and so do I.