Married Couples Monday

The life of a mom void the burnout

I totally went into burnout a couple days ago before I told my family that I refuse to move or lift one finger unless I choose to. We moms tend to be the soldier of the family when it comes to prayers, organizing, planning, and scheduling.

Being a wife and a mother of four out of five children still in the home can get hectic real fast with all of these different personalities and task they each have.

I read an article in one of my blog groups which brought me to write about this post here. she brought up some great point about burnout mom’s and how we tend to overwhelm ourselves by putting our children in any physical activity to keep them busy. She also asked have you ever thought about how you as the mom would have to attend everything your children do? I didn’t think about that part.

So let’s take a walk in my daily life as a mom. one of my sons finally plays middle school football after really trying out after two years he finally made his mind up. Next, he wants to try for basketball proud mom I must say. not too much of a hassle at first but then adding in his extra task to my schedule added a curveball 😩.

Things had gotten a bit hectic with the schedule even though, I’m a stay at home mom of 4/5 kids in the home. I still have to drive to three different schools, babysit 2 of my great nephews for time to time out the week, as well as study for two different courses from two different schools. The life of going back to school as an adult😔🤔😂.

After school then pick the other children up from their designated area. At this time I probably haven’t even had a bite to eat because the phone is ringing with a load of emails and teacher calling for whatever reason.

Finally, I make it home then here comes a 10th grader, 8th grader, 6th grader, and 5th-grader all need help with their homework and tons of conversation that require long debates. I’m like well who is gonna help me😭. Let alone dinner has to be prepared. my husband works the graveyard shift. So, I’m pretty much- doing everything while he sleeps during the day😩.

However, I decided that I was no longer going to be doing all of this on my own. I begin to pray and ask God to lead me in the right way with a clear mind to maintain what some people would call this a hectic” schedule.

Sometimes I’m like where do I get the strength from 🤔 “GOD” and still be a loving wife, a disciplined mother, and still in my right mind with the right spirit.

Do that sound like a task you can handle? Don’t forget hungry people every day looking supper😏.

Theirs three things that get me through the week besides coffee and cigarettes.

1.Prayers

2.GOD

3. And Meditation

Some may so oh no cigarettes yeah, I puff every now and then and after I just add those two bad habits to my prayer list. Don’t forget we are all humans and life is a working progress.

I truly believe with these you would make life more manageable.

I begin to strategize a plan to get everyone on task and make things a bit smoother.

This is the part when super moms turn to super warriors.

“Let’s get organize”

1. the plan begins with a family meeting.

2. Schedule chores out for the week.

3. All notification of any event or meeting form kids has to be submitted to super mom/ super warrior before the day its due.

(FYI) for some reason kids love to tell you oh mom I need this and that as you drive them to school and your like when it’s due uh today 😩.

4. Make sure kids are on board with scheduling and aware of all duties assigned.

(FYI) if you have to write it down and place it on the fridge that ok to whatever helps keep things smooth for the family.

5. Place hubby on duties a marriage is consist of two. now my husband is in control of carpooling in the am. While I take the pm shift.

Since I begin analyzing and creating a concept to keep this “hectic” schedule on the task. I have created a system that benefits everyone accordingly.

So now kids are getting their clothes organized at night doing homework as instructed, while I focus on my education. Hubby still gets to sleep after dropping everyone off in the am. This gives me plenty of energy to cook a meal of my choice because I’m not burned out or overwhelmed by supermom duties and everyone is happy. keeping some order of operation allowed me to keep things in order.

I hope you enjoyed listening to my day as a super mom and remember If we as mothers don’t take care of ourselves and implement strategies or ask for help when needed a burnout is soon to come.

Health and stress is no match for super moms we have to be equipped as super warriors so we may live a long life to hear and see all the things our children, grandchildren etc. endure.

Until next time remember God loves you and so do I.

Be blessed and stress -free because your health does matters.🤗

Taking a break from blogging😔

Hey everyone I just want to thank each and every one of you for all the support you have been giving me from the shares, likes, and comments even on my facebook page reconcile and renewed. In addition, this blog has expanded my way of expressing myself tremendously.

However, I will be taking a short break because I am a full-time student and graduation is coming soon so I am staying really focus on my studies. I will return soon with loads of great content and much to talk about on “Christian Disciple”.

Before I go I want to leave you with four things that have to help me on my journey to complete some of my goals which are:

  1. Create a Supportive Environment
  2. Measure What Matters
  3. Be Persistent
  4. Adapt and Evolve

Until next time be blessed

And remember God loves you and so do I

Inspiration for Today

Hello, everybody, I hope today has been a learning experience for each an every one of you. To be able to receive the blessing of waking up and experiencing life another day.

In addition, I pray for the ones not knowing how blessed they really are due to them worrying abought who, why, and where.

I want to leave you with 3 things before you close your eyes to sleep.

1.Love thy self before you try and love another.

2.Except your own character and do not envy or idealize.

3. Conduct yourself to the right spirit, GOD.

Until next time God loves you and so do I.

Your Marriage is a Project

Hello, my married couples back with another article for the married people. How do you deal with uplifting your marriage? Let’s dig in with a couple of things I been working on this summer when it comes to strengthening marriage.

Your marriage is a project

I’m in my thirties now, and I’m so laid back my husband must ask me am I alright a thousand times a day. Due to the change of wanting more in life, my focus is different. Now the status of our marriage is surrounded by things like how to become more intimate with each other, time spent outside of the home, and how to build a better future. Marriage is like a project, and if you give up when you get to the tuff part, I want you to stop and ask yourself what is it that you need to assess in the relationship.

Working on your marriage is very important. Yes, you may yell and scream but after all that is said and done “regroup” and pray. Prayers for your marriage work wonders trust me if it didn’t I wouldn’t be writing this post and you wouldn’t be reading it.

A couple of things married people should focus more on is

1). Knowing your worth and what you both value in life.

2). listening to what each other have to say not just one person side but allowing each other to express themselves without interruption.

(FYI) Communication speaks a lot about your perception of marriage.

We all know everything is not going to be peachy but learning from all those bumpy roads have designed me to become the wife that I am today. Remember to not get so lost that you lose focus on what is essential.

After evaluating our circumstances, we both begin to embrace smiles that lit up across our face and even enjoy the little things that brought back the joy of why we got married in the first place.

However, we cannot take all the credit becoming more spiritual has allowed not only me but my husband to remove a lot of things in both of our lives to create and develop a true an unbreakable marriage.

Now that I look back on how both of us agreed to work together by putting our words into action in a more positive way has made our marriage stronger, and we give all praise to the highest “GOD.”

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Acknowledge your position & work out your differences

There are one million things we can do but being a husband is not one of them no your position it’s ok to be a little submissive. I remember my aunt told me one day act like a lady years ago not in a disrespectful way but to be more laid back and try not to be so passive.

We, women, tend to get overwhelmed because we are doing a million things that we don’t have to do. We are merely doing them because of either

1. we want it done a certain way or

2. we are just too impatient to wait.

I have realized that perfection will leave you a mess and stressed. work together on your difference and implement a plan that is suitable for the both of you. prayer has brought my marriage along the way.

I recommend meditation set aside a time and just relax.

“What Happen When Husbands & Wives Pray Together” by Carey Moore & Pamela Rosewell Moore give you insight on how to deal with things like this.

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For example, say your spouse didn’t bring back the right type of coffee, late getting home, or forgot to put gas in the car, etc.

When my husband comes home with the wrong order, and I am being as honest as I can be. I usually scream like you can’t get a straightforward task right 🤔.

Now since we mellowed out our differences. My response will be more appropriate. And without the disrespect, he just goes back and corrects it because he is trying to make me happy and who wants to argue over something so petty as a coffee order🤔.

When things may seem rocky in your relationship the devil will take the smallest things like a mistake on a coffee order and make it an argument.

If you’re praying and acknowledging how to assess situations before and after. when the time comes you will know how to handle a situation like these.

Learning to channel my emotions, separate myself from the problem, and listen without becoming so frustrated has allowed me to hear and think of ways to fix the issue. Such as

  1. Call your spouse and have them repeat the order back to you.
  2. Write the order down so your spouse can remember.
  3. Have a conversation about the things that irritate you so when you do get in a situation you won’t use stuff like this to argue on.
  4. Help each other out so that the other spouse is not so overwhelmed.

Being able to communicate and understand the difference between each other than assuming who knows best is more efficient in a marriage.

Mistakes are going to be made but just try not to put too much emphasis on it and move on, to be honest, it’s better this way and healthier.

Wasting time arguing never fix anything in return gives both of you a headache 😣 and the issue still is not resolved.

Try focusing on the thing that brings you joy. Like sending positive love texts, playing some mellow music and just enjoy each others company.

I remember this poem my husband sent me from “cutelovequotesforher.org” my husband sends them all the time, but this one stuck in my head because I’m a sucker for poetry and lovey text.

Those texts that bring joy through the day😘😊

“You Mean the World to Me”

In all our time together, you’ve come to mean so much to me. You are my best friend my life and all my dreams. You give me hope when I’m all out. You are my pick-me-up when I’m feeling down. You make me feel good about myself. There will never be anyone else for the rest of the time to love me as you do and for me to like you too. The way I love you, you mean the world to me. You are my soul, my spirit, and my everything.

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God made wives abide and help when difficulties arise. I call it “The Strength For His Armor” because God made a marriage consist of two. When one is weak, the other is strong.

As weeks pass by I begin to notice the change in my husband and myself, I started something with my husband called let’s get active. Anyone can try this really but mainly I believe it’s better for couples that have been married more than five to seven years. Because after the first five years things seem to start getting old and we need to reevaluate our circumstance to spend more time together as a couple especially with family, work, and children its always essential to make time for your spouse.

If you would like to try some let’s get active here are a couple of things to give you an idea. Please follow the link below for more information.

6 things to strengthen your Marriage

Until next time and remember God loves you and so do I.

6 things to strengthen your Marriage

6 things we use this pass summer to get our marriage back on track hope some of these can help you redefine your marriage.

  1. Exercise together, motivate each other on strengths and weakness coach each other this creates teamwork and you also increase communication with one another.
  2. Pick date night each of you picks something that is adventurous get out your comfort zone. We all no doing things when you were younger was exciting rekindle that same love. Create memories positive ones and leave the past just as it states.
  3. Try cooking a quick meal for each other teach each other something that the other doesn’t know how to cook. put away all devices and talk to each other for a couple of hours.
  4. Drive to their job or whatever location they’re at and bring gifts or lunch or write a simple thank you note for merely being blessed to have your spouse in your life.
  5. My favorite take a drive out of town just to have lunch or go shopping.
  6. Make time and do the most extraordinary adventure together helps rekindle the love.

Stop setting rules all the time come home and put on casual clothes and just take a drive the both of you. making time and actually doing the work it takes to keep a marriage going is worth it if you love each other.

until next time be blessed.🤗🙌💏

Break The Mold & Shift

Have you thought about how society is managed by rules? Rules that require you to be responsible, self-oriented, and motivated. Without these skills how can we as humans adapt to anything? How can you help another when you lack the skills yourself? I come to you today to tell you that there is a shift every day, not just every season because God make miracles by the day as he sees fit.

When you wake up in the mornings I want you to ask yourself something are you able to adapt and live the way God designed you to or are you going to sit like a large mold? The type of person to allow yourself to become a mold and your children to grow mold, then their children become a mold?

 

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Break that cycle and begin to shift and when you do you will allow yourself to breathe, think/ learn, and regroup. I’m here to teach others that there is a God. Stop letting the enemy tell you otherwise causing you to drown in a pit of deception the unknown, and the unthinkable God won’t deal in a mess and defiantly won’t have you confused. I’m not the perfect parent or person but I strongly suggest in setting examples, and it indeed starts from the core.

For example, let’s say you have a seed with a picture of a beautiful plant but if you don’t apply water how will it ever grow and bloom. Don’t wait until something out of the ordinary happens to start living accordingly to Gods will.  In today’s time, people are dying faster than they can pray. How many wrongs it must be before we say I need to change. Set an example for others and yourself time waits for no one. Majority of individuals believe we are obligated to live a certain way but when they get drained, with life there clueless about what to do because there to focus on the current situation break the mold & shift.

For information on how to reassess your life check out my blog Human Road Map

 

until next time be blessed.

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Human Road Map

I believe life is a test and you have the choice to reevaluate your circumstance even in the most challenging times. So, I come to you on this glorious day because I am thankful for my life changes and what better way to give back to God than to share, share, and share when we are so blessed. God wants you to have a different perspective on life never believe there is one way out of no way. When the devil said “no you can’t. God said, “yes you can.” I believe the bible is our strategic tool, model, and design to life to teach us how to reassess our circumstances.

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Here are five steps to evaluate your life internally and emotionally Human Road Map

 

  1. Lamentation 3:40 Let us test and examine our ways and return to the lord. 2 Corinthians 13:5 Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Or do you not realize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you? Unless indeed you fail to meet the test.
  2. Identify the problem Psalm 50:15 and call upon me in the day of trouble: I will deliver thee, and thou shalt glorify me. Ephesian 6:12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.
  3. Creative development Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is his good, pleasing, and perfect will. Exodus 35:31-32 and he has filled with the spirit of God with wisdom, with understanding, with knowledge and with all kind of skills. To make artistic design for work in gold, silver, and bronze.
  4. Christ the Prototype 2 Timothy 3:16-17 all scriptures are breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.
  5. Refinement Psalm 66:10 For you God, tested us, O God; you have purified us like silver. The devil wants you to be confused and misplaced reassess your life through Christ you will see God work anywhere.

God places us in circumstances so that we listen, learn, and share his word with others. Don’t allow yourself to focus on the situation so much that you forget how to assess the problem. We can do all things through Christ that’s why I believe in sharing inspiration, motivation, and prayers.

until next time be blessed and increase the knowledge to others